9 Rules of Mastering Self

Rule #2 Process Your Feelings: What Happens When You Don’t Process Your Emotions Unprocessed emotions don’t disappear. They accumulate. When feelings are ignored, buried, or avoided, they begin to show up in ways that are harder to control and easier to regret. What you don’t face internally will eventually surface externally. The Consequences of Avoiding Emotional Processing 1. Emotions Come Out Sideways. When emotions aren’t processed, they leak through tone, body langu

Rule #2 Process Your Feelings: Emotion Is Information, Not Instruction Most people were never taught how to process emotions—only how to react to them or suppress them. Rule #2: Process Your Feelings exists to change that. Feelings are not weaknesses. They are signals. When emotions go unprocessed, they don’t disappear—they leak. They show up as frustration, shutdown, overreaction, people-pleasing, or self-sabotage.

How to Practice the Pause in Real Time Pausing is not passive. It is a skill—and like any skill, it improves with intention and repetition. The goal is not to eliminate emotion. The goal is to lead it.

Why Emotional Reactions Cost More Than You Think Most people believe reacting emotionally is harmless. It’s not. Every reaction comes with a cost, and most of the time that cost is paid later in regret, damaged relationships, lost opportunities, or self-trust. When emotion is in control, logic is silent. Emotional reactions feel quick—but their consequences last much longer.