Rule #2 Process Your Feelings: Emotion Is Information, Not Instruction Most people were never taught how to process emotions—only how to react to them or suppress them. Rule #2: Process Your Feelings exists to change that. Feelings are not weaknesses. They are signals. When emotions go unprocessed, they don’t disappear—they leak. They show up as frustration, shutdown, overreaction, people-pleasing, or self-sabotage.